Stressing me out.

[nwhiker]

Dh and Linnea are tired of Skype music lessons, and decided yesterday that next week, they'd do outdoors lessons on the deck. Teacher is thrilled as well.

TBF dh did ask me if it was ok, but the three of them were so excited I didn't say no. (*)

Why would I say no? Because the house is still a freaking mess.

There are boxes in the middle of the floor. There is a 6fx2.5ft portable table covered with boxes. The coffee table has boxes on it. There are boxes on the bench that adds seating in the living room. There are boxes and glassware all over the dining room table. There is a square 2.5x2.5 ft table covered with more glassware.

The floor has not been completely vacuumed since they brought this shit in, Memorial Day weekend. It has not been mopped since then either. The cats shed. The floors are a mess. In normal times, the Roomba gets run every night, and while it doesn't do a great job on a single outing, over the course of nightly sweeping, it does an ok job that we just supplement occasionally.

So yeah, mess. There is a lot of work to do to make this place presentable. I am not doing it alone, and Linnea and Perry are going to have to help as well. I'm a bit grumpy about the lack of help we're getting on anything, and I'm sure Linnea will do the waily waily thing about having to clean up when her vacation is almost over, but she's in on this, so she needs to help.

We won't be able to get the boxes taken care of in a week, alas, that's not happening, but maybe we can get them re-arranged and corralled. That would help a lot, since right now part of what is on the card table is a bunch of shoe boxes filled FIL and his mom's papers (they had OMG so many letters and cards and random photos and newspaper clipping and... and... Paper!) that could be consolidated in the other boxes that say "Papers", which would help, and a decision needs to be made on much of the glassware. Either donate it, or get someone to sell it on ebay. My feeling is still that if SIL wants to get money out of it, she needs to sell it herself, I'm not going to.

She got a bunch of money from an insurance policy, free and clear of the estate, and she's pushing dh to get every possible penny out of it. Which I understand, but it's his time and energy that are going there, and while we've recovered some of our costs (the funeral), we paid for enough out of pocket for her and her kid (travel, hotel, rental, clothing purchases, food), that dh will be getting very little money out of this. That's ok, we're not desperate for it, but I do think asking him to do more to get money for her by attempting to get him to sell any personal effect that might have any value at all is really pushing it. He has told her that she is welcome to take all of the stuff, sell it, and keep the money but she can't be bothered. She wants him to do and just write her another check. So we're kinda in a paralysis mode because there is some concern (me especially) that if we don't, she'll come after him, accusing him of not doing his executor duties properly. And yes, she would.

All this leaves me with crap all over the house (and I'm ignoring the garage full of furniture) and no easy way to get rid of it.

(*) Obviously, I don't give my husband permission to have people over. He was asking about my level of comfort for having someone over etc in pandemic times. We agree on risk assessment or it doesn't happen.