Sad teary eyes
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nwhikerI don't think Linnea has stopped crying since yesterday.
She sees this latest rejection as meta, as what her whole is going to be: a series of rejections, one after the other.
She sees nothing but failure ahead.
I don't know how to help.
People mock helicopter parents. If there was anything I could do, I would so be fucking doing it.
I think part of why I'm angry about this music thing is for my deeply disappointed child, but also on a meta level, on the loss of talent and the curtailing of children's dreams. Be the Best or Go Home is not a message I think is good. I'm not talking about everyone getting a participation trophy. I'm talking about everyone being offered a respectful place to play, with room for growth.
For my kid.... it's hard to see her put in so much effort, in some many areas, only to never be good enough. She works as hard as the other rowers, something coaches and fellow rowers often tell her (and us), but at 5ft even, she's never going to be a top rower. She puts hours into homework and study for a C GPA. She practiced her audition piece over and over, even non-musical me could here the progress over the 10 days she had, only to be rejected.
We tell kids to work hard, but then we lie and tell them that hard work will be rewarded.
She sees this latest rejection as meta, as what her whole is going to be: a series of rejections, one after the other.
She sees nothing but failure ahead.
I don't know how to help.
People mock helicopter parents. If there was anything I could do, I would so be fucking doing it.
I think part of why I'm angry about this music thing is for my deeply disappointed child, but also on a meta level, on the loss of talent and the curtailing of children's dreams. Be the Best or Go Home is not a message I think is good. I'm not talking about everyone getting a participation trophy. I'm talking about everyone being offered a respectful place to play, with room for growth.
For my kid.... it's hard to see her put in so much effort, in some many areas, only to never be good enough. She works as hard as the other rowers, something coaches and fellow rowers often tell her (and us), but at 5ft even, she's never going to be a top rower. She puts hours into homework and study for a C GPA. She practiced her audition piece over and over, even non-musical me could here the progress over the 10 days she had, only to be rejected.
We tell kids to work hard, but then we lie and tell them that hard work will be rewarded.
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