What to do?

[nwhiker]

So, Covid-19 permitting, we'll be going camping with my sis and BIL in July. If my mom is the NW at that time, and she may well be, she'll be there too. Perry has already told his coach he'd be out that week, and he's planning on joining us.

But.

What the fuck do we do about Anne-Chloe?

I told dh we had to tell her and at least ask her if she wanted to come. And that we had to do it now, so if she wanted to, she could plan for it and take off work.

The problem, of course, is the dipshit boyfriend. The thought of going camping with him kinda ruins the whole thing for pretty much everyone else, except of course AC. Plus she's be bringing their damn dog, who is one of those nasty skittish ones who probably won't do well in a campground (my sister will probably have their dog, but Penny is quite chill).

I get so fucking depressed when I realize that for the rest of our lives, our relationship with our daughter is going to be strained because of that awful man. We rarely see her because even when she says "I", she means "we", so unless we're willing to antagonize her and say clearly "we want to meet with you for lunch, not Chris", it's not possible to see her by herself. I just think of the whole future and I want to cry.

If it were just me, one could say I'm just a nasty bitch who doesn't think anyone is good enough for her precious daughter... but it isn't just me. It's pretty much everyone in our families.

Still, the fact remains that we'll never have a comfortable relationship with Anne-Chloe again, and that every time there is a family event of any sort we have to balance out the two sides: ruin it for everyone or exclude Anne-Chloe.

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[camelsamba]

I'm sorry he puts such a damper on family events - it must be an awful feeling.