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Three things for Sunday
14 Jan 2024 15:461. Mixed feelings on this one: Anne-Chloe got a pretty major promotion at work, from research tech to staff scientist, she'll be the lab leader. It's... big. But... the guy who was there before was there for 30 years. Just... being the lab director. Not the PI. The director. I don't want her to get caught in the more responsibility/more money trap and not get that MD/PhD she needs to do something truly creative with her life. So. I'm very proud of her and a bit scared too.
2. OMG, my stupid bitch of a SIL. OMG. So. For the past... what, 20 plus years? If I am here over a given holiday, I will host, unless plans are specifically made to all to go dh's aunt, which we did once or twice over the past few decades. During the pandemic, I made a delivered full holiday meals to MIL and SIL. This year, we decided to invite dh's aunt specifically since her "problem child dog" has died and she's a bit more free to do stuff like haul the other four dogs up to us for the day. Apparently, after we texted her, she texted SIL to tell her she'd be there. SIL immediately got her nose bent out of joint that she hadn't gotten a specific invitation. Reader, in the past twenty years she has never gotten one, just a call or a text close to the holiday to specify time. Same as for my MIL. So. SIL got into a snit and refused to come for Thanksgiving. Fine, we said. For Christmas, dh texted with his nephew a few days before and finished off with a reminder that they were invited for Christmas. The day before Christmas we find out that again, my SIL does not feel that her invitation was sufficient, so she was not going to grace us with her presence. Fuck that shit, nobody cared and we had a great time without her. She sent us a major passive-aggressive text. New Year's dh sent her a text specifically and she came. Whatever, not after, when we asked MIL if she wanted to come over, she asked "Is everyone invited?" Fuck that shit. So where are we right now? We often invite MIL to come over for dinner, because eh, it's not a major event, we're just asking if she wants to come over and share whatever we're having, ya know? Nothing formal. The past two times we did this (early Jan and today) dh got a text back saying "Is everyone invited?" and well, NO. This is not a major meal, just having her over. Dh now does not want to invite his mother over any longer because he's feeling like now, SIL has intruded in a casual relationship between us and his mother, and his mother is making it worse, so now, we're done. Long story. But yeah, my SIL is a stupid bitch.
3. Norway section of the trip is planned. After a small cancellation of a plan a few weeks ago, which was annoying, we ended up going with a small agency who booked everything for us (according to the plan we'd already made). It cost a tiny bit but saved a lot of time and frustration (see above: cancellation). What was nice is they were able to find another Northern Lights cruise for us! We need to plan Iceland next! Volcano is back erupting in Grindavik, but unlike the two first times, this isn't a tourist excursion to the middle of nowhere, it's a town being destroyed.
2. OMG, my stupid bitch of a SIL. OMG. So. For the past... what, 20 plus years? If I am here over a given holiday, I will host, unless plans are specifically made to all to go dh's aunt, which we did once or twice over the past few decades. During the pandemic, I made a delivered full holiday meals to MIL and SIL. This year, we decided to invite dh's aunt specifically since her "problem child dog" has died and she's a bit more free to do stuff like haul the other four dogs up to us for the day. Apparently, after we texted her, she texted SIL to tell her she'd be there. SIL immediately got her nose bent out of joint that she hadn't gotten a specific invitation. Reader, in the past twenty years she has never gotten one, just a call or a text close to the holiday to specify time. Same as for my MIL. So. SIL got into a snit and refused to come for Thanksgiving. Fine, we said. For Christmas, dh texted with his nephew a few days before and finished off with a reminder that they were invited for Christmas. The day before Christmas we find out that again, my SIL does not feel that her invitation was sufficient, so she was not going to grace us with her presence. Fuck that shit, nobody cared and we had a great time without her. She sent us a major passive-aggressive text. New Year's dh sent her a text specifically and she came. Whatever, not after, when we asked MIL if she wanted to come over, she asked "Is everyone invited?" Fuck that shit. So where are we right now? We often invite MIL to come over for dinner, because eh, it's not a major event, we're just asking if she wants to come over and share whatever we're having, ya know? Nothing formal. The past two times we did this (early Jan and today) dh got a text back saying "Is everyone invited?" and well, NO. This is not a major meal, just having her over. Dh now does not want to invite his mother over any longer because he's feeling like now, SIL has intruded in a casual relationship between us and his mother, and his mother is making it worse, so now, we're done. Long story. But yeah, my SIL is a stupid bitch.
3. Norway section of the trip is planned. After a small cancellation of a plan a few weeks ago, which was annoying, we ended up going with a small agency who booked everything for us (according to the plan we'd already made). It cost a tiny bit but saved a lot of time and frustration (see above: cancellation). What was nice is they were able to find another Northern Lights cruise for us! We need to plan Iceland next! Volcano is back erupting in Grindavik, but unlike the two first times, this isn't a tourist excursion to the middle of nowhere, it's a town being destroyed.
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