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I've posted this before, but feel the need to post it again. A holiday that makes a good portion of the people it's supposed to celebrate feel bad isn't a great holiday in my book. Every year I try to decide which I hate worse, Mother's Day or Valentine's Day and I come up blank. I think I loathe them both equally.

[...]

But can I just state that I still detest Mother's Day?

I feel so guilty about that. I don't enjoy the attention, or the whole freaking concept of it. It's so not me. I just... don't get it.

I mean, I love my kids, I love being their mother, but Mother's Day? Bzzzt!

I think part of it is that it is a day that is made to celebrate one facet of some women's identity, to the exclusion of all others. And people will be out there today, a tear in their eye, talking about mother's and mother's work and never EVER freaking mentioning that all the while we glorify this mythical mother, we cut funding for the real mothers, make it harder for them to get the help they need. We make motherhood a punishment for having sex. We refuse to acknowledge lesbian mothers as families, by not letting them get married. Mothers have fewer opportunities in the workplace, we mock them with the 'mom-' (mom-hair, mom-car, mom-jeans, mom-whatever) construct, and contrast "regular" moms with MILFs (dear god, how I hate that), and Britain's "yummy mummies" (I hate that even more).

So yeah, Happy Mother's Day to all those of you who did it right, who are straight, and married, and wealthy enough to not need any type of government aid. Because when we say Happy Mother's Day, we mean them, not the lesbians, the poor, the single. Bah.

Motherhood is a reality for many of us, but it's not a requirement for being a woman, a contributing member of society, and I'm sorry that it seems like this is the only facet of womanhood that gets celebrated.

However... Happy Mother's Day to Everyone who wants to lay claim to the day for whatever reason, kids, cats, dogs, nieblings, whatever, whomever.
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We were in the performing arts center. There was a short performance/final for some of the kids taking music classes, as well as a very nice computer show of art work.

Perry was in world drumming this quarter -he loved it- so his class performed, which was pretty cool.

There was the 5/6th grade choir, and the flamenco class (a PE credit, but a few brave volunteers came to grace the Fine Arts department's event) danced, and a few of the various orchestras did short pieces. A nice school event.

There were some people next to me chatting with some people behind me. The conversation got a bit general and a few people who were not involved in the initial conversation joined in. Including me.

There was some confusion as to if R74 had passed, since last they'd checked, the Seattle Times still had it in the "too close to call" column.

Because it's their 19th anniversary in Dec and they'd like to get married then. Or the weekend after.

And I was able to tell them that the opponents had conceded it was going to pass, and that the Seattle Times had called it passed. Even if all the votes won't be counted for a while (we're at 76% now. Even Florida is doing better). One other women confirmed my information.

So they will be able to get married. As one said to the other, "For better, for worse, and you know all the worse by now."

And of the 8 people on that little group, 5 of whom didn't know the others more than by sight, from what I can tell, 7 of us were crying. Dh managed not to, but he took my hand and squeezed it, and smiled.

Yay!

9 May 2012 12:17
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North Carolina left a bitter taste in my mouth last night, so this is unmitigated good news:

BREAKING: Obama Embraces Marriage Equality


[...]at a certain point I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married.
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Gay Marine's Homecoming Kiss Is Lighting Up The Web.




Next up? Let's make sure family benefits are available to the non-military partner.
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I know I have at least one reader in the Great State of WA, so I'll post this!

Gay-marriage backers still short by a couple votes in state Senate.

If any of these undecideds belong to you, now would be the time to contact them, I think!

State Sens. Andy Hill, R-Redmond; Joe Fain, R-Auburn; Mary Margaret Haugen, D-Camano Island; Jim Kastama, D-Puyallup; Paull Shin, D-Edmonds, and Brian Hatfield, D-Raymond, are uncommitted, according to the lawmakers or members of their staffs.

I'm surprised my jerk-ass state senator (Andy Hill) is undecided, though I suspect he'll vote against no matter what I do. I'll be contacting them on Tuesday, I guess.

I still mourn my all-D representation, alas. 2010 got me Andy Hill, and with redistricting gerrymandering, my congressional district is going to be represented by a Thug next time. No way can the high tech Eastside balance out 4 counties worth of pure red.

Anyhow.
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2 Dads, 2 Daughters, 1 Big Day.

Make me cry, it did.

I wish them much happiness.

This really is what gay marriage is all about: families. Kids or not, by the way. But families.
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2 Dads, 2 Daughters, 1 Big Day.

Make me cry, it did.

I wish them much happiness.

This really is what gay marriage is all about: families. Kids or not, by the way. But families.
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Congratulations, Sinjoyla Townsend and Angelisa Young.

Marriage equality in DC, and some commentary. I particularly liked this:

Opponents of same-sex marriage—those bigots with the desperate insecurity about their super-special relationships losing the shimmering, golden glow that only denying marriage equality to same-sex couples conveys upon their gloriously gilded unions—are still, yawn, making the argument that same-sex marriages will somehow, magically, undermine opposite-sex marriage. But my opposite-sex marriage does not feel undermined today. My opposite-sex marriage means more to me today, because the institution has become more inclusive—and by each little expansion of its borders does it become ever more about love.


and even more so this:

That isn't about marriage. It's not about being straight or gay, either. It's about feeling such a desperate need to be close to another person(s) that you are certain the two (or more) of you were once torn asunder. It's about love. And that is neither the sole province of unions between one man and one woman, nor a luxury we should ever take for granted. It is a luxury so precious that denying of some people any and every expression of its unique and awesome qualities, treating their love as different, as less, is an affront to the tremendous gift we have been given in our capacity to feel love.


Go read the whole thing.
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Congratulations, Sinjoyla Townsend and Angelisa Young.

Marriage equality in DC, and some commentary. I particularly liked this:

Opponents of same-sex marriage—those bigots with the desperate insecurity about their super-special relationships losing the shimmering, golden glow that only denying marriage equality to same-sex couples conveys upon their gloriously gilded unions—are still, yawn, making the argument that same-sex marriages will somehow, magically, undermine opposite-sex marriage. But my opposite-sex marriage does not feel undermined today. My opposite-sex marriage means more to me today, because the institution has become more inclusive—and by each little expansion of its borders does it become ever more about love.


and even more so this:

That isn't about marriage. It's not about being straight or gay, either. It's about feeling such a desperate need to be close to another person(s) that you are certain the two (or more) of you were once torn asunder. It's about love. And that is neither the sole province of unions between one man and one woman, nor a luxury we should ever take for granted. It is a luxury so precious that denying of some people any and every expression of its unique and awesome qualities, treating their love as different, as less, is an affront to the tremendous gift we have been given in our capacity to feel love.


Go read the whole thing.

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